Monday, February 8, 2016

Manic Monday - It's Just A Game & Role Models

After every big game, such as the Super Bowl, NBA Championships, or World Series, I know there are dozens more I could name, but that's not the point, there's a flurry of people commenting on the behavior of the athletes, and teams.
This year's Super Bowl 50 was no exception. And with Social Media, the haters were out in force. Poor Cam Newton is being strung up in the public square for not handling his loss like people think he should have. (Lest we forget, Richard Sherman's poor sportsmanship in winning.)
Here's my take. You don't have to like it, but I'm going to share it. The reason I'm sharing it is because this morning on Facebook I posted that even though I thought Cam Newton could have handled himself more appropriately, I wasn't going to judge him. Why? Because I've never played any sport at that level. I've never put my all into anything at that level, or known that kind of pressure, and no way was I going to judge anyone for their reaction to such a defeat. And then to have to listen to that team go on and on about how they owned you, while you tried to answer questions from the press? Yes, the Broncos were on the other side of the wall from the Panthers.

For my response, I was chastised for defending Newton. Defending? No, I was choosing not to judge. And to call him a poor sport, fine, but then call a spade a spade. At least he stayed on the field to congratulate the other team. When Peyton Manning lost to the Saints, he didn't even bother to shake Drew Brees' hand (and he wasn't a kid of 20-something at the time). Oh yeah, he said he'd call him later. (Really? Later? After you've had time to compose yourself, lick your wounds, and get your thoughts together? That's not sportsmanship either.) And yet some woman on Facebook chose to defend Manning, saying he was giving the Saints their time in the limelight. Oh, please!!! What a crock of shit! That was poor sportsmanship to the Nth degree. 

Which brings me to my points. The first being that unless you were on the field or a part of the teams, it's just a game. Entertainment for the masses. No different than a movie or television show. Wait! It is a television show, only we get to cheer for one side or the other. Wheeeeeeee! Unless you had a bet on the game, then maybe it's a bit more. These people are paid huge money to entertain us. That's it. The game is for our entertainment. When it's over, it's over, and they go home to their multimillion dollar lives, while we go on with ours. And yet somehow we think it's more than that. Maybe it makes us feel better to defend old Peyton, and forget that he too was a poor sport when he was younger and less composed. Or we don't like to think what he would have done if the Broncos had lost.

And to those who say these athletes are role models for their kids, I feel sorry for you. I feel bad that you think these people are who your kids aspire to be. Why? Because I used to be an athletic trainer (prevention and care of sports injuries, for those who don't know what that is). I worked with these athletes for years, and I can tell you, other than the amount of time they put into their sport, there is no way on Earth I'd want my kid to aspire to be any of those people, EVER! There are very few, if you saw them away from their public personas, the one spun by their PR people, that you'd ever want your kid to be like. Sure, you want your kid to work hard and go to college, but do you want them to do what it really takes to get to that level? Or treat people the way many of these people do? If you only knew, you'd keep your role models closer to home, and hope your kids emulated you. So why not be a better role model yourself, so your kids can look up to you, and aspire to something. Show them good values, and give them the right rules and motivation to look within themselves to be the best they can be, instead of aspiring to be like someone else?

The only person a kid should be trying to be like or better than, is the person they were yesterday. They can learn the athletics, and physical fitness from professionals, but when it comes to sportsmanship, respect, and self-esteem, that starts and ends within themselves and from their parents. Not from some TV, PR spun oversized sports figure on TV.

When I hear a parent say, "He's a role model, he should know better," I want to slap them silly. He's not a role model, he's a highly paid entertainer. YOU are a role model, and to let your kids think a football player is in any way a role model is scary. And sad.

Thursday, February 4, 2016

New Year - Best Year Goals Part 2

This is my last post about the New Year, Best Year Goals. Now it's time for you to take control and make this your best year. 
You've looked back at what didn't work, you've seen what you need to do to make your goals work. And you now will learn how to record and be timely with your goals.

Everyone is digital these days, but I think writing down your goals is a great way to keep them close to your heart. Go out and buy an inexpensive planner. Or, if budgeting isn't in your goals, splurge. Hobby Lobby and Michaels have some great planners you can customize. Etsy is a great place for planners and custom stickers. You can also print your own stickers to add to your pages. Just use the 2x4 shipping labels and add them to your pages. 
Here is my custom planner
 

I haven't filled out my pages yet, because I'm crazy behind with my deadlines, and I still have to add my stickers inside.
I used different colored inks, just to keep everything bright and cheerful, and make it fun. I try to sit down on Sunday night, after I'm settled in, and finished with my work, and plan out my week. This makes everything much easier for me, and I keep my planner with me all the time. This way I can write spur of the moment ideas.
Sure, I can use my phone, but this is more fun, and visceral.
Now this is going to be a bit long, because I'm going to post everything you might want to track.
MONTHLY TO DO LIST
PROJECTS TO COMPLETE
PROJECTS STILL WORKING ON
GOALS: Financial, Spiritual, Business, Relationship, Mindfulness, Physical, Health (whatever goals you're tracking- don't overwhelm yourself)
NEW HABITS TO ADOPT
OLD HABITS TO STOP
TRACK PROGRESS
PRIMARY TASKS FOR THE WEEK.

Remember, you're adding a new habit every 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months. And you're tracking your goal progress. You need to think ahead and write these down. Then you need to track, and reward yourself.

At the end of the week, and the end of the month:
TRACK SUCCESS - how did you do? What do you need to work on? Did you get closer to your goal? What were your obstacles? Were they self-imposed, or unavoidable? BE HONEST HERE! What can you do to make next week/month more successful?

Timeliness: Are you being realistic in your goals? After tracking yourself for 3 months, you need to sit down and take an honest look at your progress. Be honest with your shortcomings too. Why didn't you meet your goals? Let's talk (I mean you talk to yourself). 

This is it people, let's go out there and make 2016 ROCK! 

I want to hear from you, so comment here, and let me know how you're doing. I have a crazy busy year ahead that includes several books, and losing weight before my niece's wedding in October. I'm considering blogging about that journey, so stay tuned...


Tuesday, January 26, 2016

New Year Best Year - Goals (part 1)

New Year - Best Year GOALS - part 1

There are many types of goals: spiritual, professional, personal, sports, health, meditative...
I could go on  and on with things you can set goals for, but it's not good to start with too much too fast. Just like a weight loss or exercise program, if you do too much at first, you're overwhelmed and quit.
So let's start with 3 goals, and we'll reassess them at intervals of 3 days, 3 weeks, and 3 months.
SMART goals are: SPECIFIC, MEASURABLE, ATTAINABLE, RECORDED, TIMELY
We will work on being specific, measurable, and attainable this week.
Next week we'll work on recording, and timeliness.

The easiest goal to start with, one that many people have worked with is WEIGHT LOSS.
So let's start with this as our goal.
SPECIFIC: I will lose 20 pounds by (insert date that is 3 months from the day you read this, or get started).
This is easily MEASURABLE by the scale. If you don't have one, you should get one to help measure your progress. You can use the one at your gym.

ATTAINABLE: This goal is attainable by:
1. Change my eating habits (not specific enough) Replace my morning bagel with a bowl of oatmeal with fruit in the morning.
2. Having a fruit and/or vegetable smoothie to replace a high calorie lunch. The natural sugar will be better for my system, and keep me from afternoon slump.
3. Increasing the lean protein in my meals, eating 5-6 servings of fruits and vegetables a day.
4. Drinking more water.
5. Taking a multivitamin.
6. Adding daily exercise to my routine. (more specific) I'm going to start walking, boxing, and lifting light weights.

Okay, it seems like a LOT to take on, right? So instead of doing everything at once, break it down.

FOR THE NEXT 3 DAYS: I'll increase my water consumption, and replace my breakfast with oatmeal and fruit. (this will become a habit)
FOR THE NEXT 3 WEEKS: I'll add a new healthy habit from my list above every three days.
FOR THE NEXT 3 MONTHS: I'll write in my journal, and keep track of my progress. I'll weigh in every Friday, so I give myself incentive to stick with my program over the weekend.

This is just one example of how you might write down your goals, and make yourself accountable. Start slow and add as time goes on, so it's not overwhelming.

Now think of another goal you'd like to accomplish in the next 3 months, and work out the details for the next 3 days, weeks, months, to make the goal a reality.

Next week I'll post about ways to track your progress.

Previous posts in this series:
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-4.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-3.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-2.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-1.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-new-what.html

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If you want to look forward, and work on your own, I'm using books from Tony Robbins, Master the Game, and Lisa Jacobs, Your Best Year to help me.


Friday, January 15, 2016

New Year - Looking Back, Part 4

New Year - Looking Back, Part 4

This is it for looking back questions. How have you done so far? Has it been eye opening? When I was honest with myself answering these questions, it made me sick to my stomach. I wasted so much time and money in the last 12 months. It' no wonder I got off track, and nothing was accomplished. Okay, maybe not nothing, but not nearly what I'd planned. This year will be different for me. I have a plan, and I have a map. I'm hoping to provide a map for you too. Let's get through this last set of questions.

1. Do you have any goals you didn't get to, or accomplish?

2. Did you even set any goals?

3. What kept you from completing your goals?

4. Did you have a major setback?

5. How did you sabotage yourself?

6. What are the bad habits you're holding onto, that you need to leave behind?


These last questions are the toughest, because they make us take a good look at ourselves. I had a hard time with #2 because in my head I may have thought I had goals, but I never wrote anything on paper. I never put it down to look at and say, "This is my goal, and I'm going to accomplish it." Sure I had ideas, and thoughts of what I wanted to get done, but I didn't have concrete plans and dates of accomplishing specific goals. That's going to change this year. What about you? Are you ready for a great year? 

Let's do this thing!

Previous posts in this series:
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-3.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-2.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-1.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-new-what.html

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If you want to look forward, and work on your own, I'm using books from Tony Robbins, Master the Game, and Lisa Jacobs, Your Best Year to help me.

Thursday, January 14, 2016

New Year - Looking Back, Part 3

New Year - Looking Back, Part 3

Almost there. Today and tomorrow are the last days of looking back, then we start looking to this year, and how we can seize the day, the week, the year. How we can make it the best year ever!
After this week, I'll only be posting a couple of days a week on this series, and the posts will have the title NEW YEAR, BEST YEAR in the title. That way you'll know they are part of this series. I'll try to post them on Monday, so you have all week to write in your notebook, and to work on your goals.

Today's questions:

1. What was your biggest time suck last year?
Our time gets wasted in many ways: social media (though for some careers, it's a necessity, but not as much time as we actually spent), housework, driving, television, Netflix, email checking...

2. What  did you spend money on last year that you wish you hadn't, or shouldn't have?
I'm not talking about bills, and necessities, I'm talking about big ticket items, or clothes, or things you didn't really need to have.

3. Are there things that were left unfinished?

4. What was the most demanding part of your year?

5. Looking back, what would you have done differently?

Almost there...tomorrow you'll answer the last five looking back questions, okay, maybe six questions tomorrow.
After we get through this, we will be able to look forward to this year.

Previous posts in this series:
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-2.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-1.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-new-what.html

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If you want to look forward, and work on your own, I'm using books from Tony Robbins, Master the Game, and Lisa Jacobs, Your Best Year to help me.

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

New Year - Looking Back, Part 2

New Year - Looking Back, Part 2

How did you do with answering the questions to part one? It's an eyeopener to answer honestly what you actually accomplished in 365 days. Answering today's questions will open them even more. Get your notepad and pen ready...

1. What were the positives of 2015?
You don't have to pick one thing. You may have had a very successful year and had lots of great and positive things, so jot them down.

2. Did you learn anything about yourself?

3. Were there hurdles you had to jump? Were you able to get over them?

4. Who was your support system?

5. Did you support others?

Tomorrow there will be five more question.
After we get through this, we will be able to look forward to this year.

Previous posts in this series:
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-looking-back-part-1.html
http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-new-what.html

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If you want to look forward, and work on your own, I'm using books from Tony Robbins, Master the Game, and Lisa Jacobs, Your Best Year to help me.

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

New Year - Looking Back, Part 1

To move forward into 2016, I told you in the last post that we were going to look back at 2015.
The rest of this week, we'll look at what we did in 2015, and if it was enough to meet the goals we wanted to reach.
Here are your questions for today:
1. When you look at 2015, what stands out? What are your favorite things?
Think about the things you did, events you attended, places you went, people you met, friends you made.
2. Did you complete any tasks or goals?

3. Did you spend your time well?
Be honest with yourself, could you have planned your time better? Maybe watched less TV? 

4. Did you spend your money well?
Were you careful with how you spent your money, or did you budget? Did you save for the things you wanted to buy, the big ticket items, or did you buy things you'll likely put in the closet and never use or wear?

5. What is your big life goal, and did you work toward accomplishing it?

Think about these questions, and don't hurry to answer. Then get out your notebook and answer them.
tomorrow there will be five more question.
After we get through this, we will be able to look forward to this year.

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Previous posts in this series: http://blog.jamieleescott.com/2016/01/new-year-new-what.html


If you want to look forward, and work on your own, I'm using books from Tony Robbins, Master the Game, and Lisa Jacobs, Your Best Year to help me.


Monday, January 11, 2016

New Year - New What?

Notice this post wasn't made at the first of January? Why? Because it's not about New Year's resolutions. This post is about reflecting on 2015, and being honest with yourself (or myself, as the case may be).

I talk a lot about goals, and post a lot about being positive. Long term, short term, I've never actually written it all down on paper, and followed through. I don't think I can call myself a finisher. I have good intentions, but because I've never mapped out my journey or progress, I've strayed in ways that have cost me years of progress.

I think in order to be a finisher, and to move forward, we need to look back at where we came from, at what held us up in the past. What did we do to keep us from achieving our goals? Did we even set any concrete goals? Write them down, and look at them every day? Did we do everything we could? Did we schedule our time well? Really? Or were we fooling ourselves?

The rest of the week, I'll be blogging about taking inventory of ourselves. Each day, I'll ask a series of questions about 2015, and give you examples of answers. I'd like for you to follow along with me, and be honest in your answers, then see if you can't learn from what you did and didn't do in 2015 to be your best. Was it your best year ever? Could 2016 be that year?

Let's reach our goals together.

You'll need a notebook, or just some blank pages of paper. You can type this on a computer, but I think writing it out will make you really think, and you'll get more out of it. These answers are yours, be honest with yourself, so when we move into the 2016 phase, you'll be able to set realistic goals. We aren't trying to change the world (or maybe you are), just trying to make this a better year than last year.

This applies to everyone, whether your goal is to lose weight, build your business, be a more productive writer, a better knitter, read more books, be happier, get more exercise, whatever. I'm using a roadmap (this isn't my innovative idea), and I'm going to share what I'm learning with you. I'll also share resources.

So, are you with me?

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